Another Impasse

So this Friday I ended up Skyping with an old friend of mine, we'll call him A. We've been friends for going on five years now and he's one of my best guy friends. He started telling me about his housemate, who we'll call R (who also happens to be [or I guess was...] one of my old and really good guy friends) and how he's been drinking a lot lately. Apparently R has been getting super wasted and has taken to stripping down and then sprinting around outside. Now first of all I'm not going to condemn drinking. I've done it myself, but I believe in moderation: simple social drinking only. I don't think it's fun or funny to get so drunk you start making a total idiot out of yourself and forget what happened in the morning. I don't understand why you would even want to do that. It might make your problems disappear for a while but in the morning it's all going to come back and with a splitting headache. What's the point? Just man up and deal with your problems.

Anyway, I digress. So A had to leave shortly after telling me this so I ended up texting R lightly chastising his and I receive a response back of "who is this?" Confused I said something along the lines of "What do you mean? You've had my number for years..." and I get "I don't ever remember having this number" back. Now I knew something was wrong so I stopped texting after double checking that it was indeed R I was texting. Then I set off to find him on the old facebook to check in with him there. And as before, with the previously mentioned Impasse, he was nowhere to be found on facebook. I immediately told a mutual friend about this and she confirmed that he hadn't deleted his facebook and how strange it was. She mentioned a couple trivial incidences from early summer that he had come to her about concerning me giving him a hard time about dating her and one time where I apparently ignored him because I was foggy with jetlag. So I texted him back about it saying I wasn't aware he was so upset about any of it. I didn't say so to him but he should have come and talked to ME about this problem and talked it out. For Christ's sake I've broken his heart before and he got over that so we could stay friends but apparently THIS time he can't even fucking talk to me. I ended up getting a really bitchy response back from him saying "i don't give a shit about you. or your fucking jet lag. Get a life." Direct quote. Seriously. What the hell? This isn't even the kid I know. This is not my friend. So I replied saying that. And that if he's going to be that way I guess it's best we not be friends. I haven't heard back since. Am I upset? Yes. But unlike last time I'm not going to obsess about it. He made is decision and I'll respect that. Like I said to him, if he's going to act this way then it's best we not be friends. I'm definitely going to miss him, or who he used to be, but that's growing up. People change, sometimes for the better and sometimes...not. So be it. Live and let live.